A Little More About the Husband
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. (1Peter 3:7)
I’m glad Ava Brought along her pet chicken to remind us to consider children in our home decisions. I began the theme on the Christian Home because the Apostle wrote about it two thousand years ago. Isn’t it amazing that his words are timeless, and up-to-date? That’s because the Lord told him what to say. I have at least five more articles to go on The Christian Home. But, I came across this piece I wrote on January 22, 2008 that I need to insert and backtrack a little.
A CHRISTIAN HUSBAND WHO WON'T LISTEN TO THE LORD ABOUT HIS MARRIAGE is going to be in big trouble with his Maker and Redeemer who says: “….that your prayers be not hindered.”
This is no idle threat and one of God’s promises. God has promised not to listen to your prayers if you are not living with your wife according to knowledge, not honoring her; if you are forgetting that you are heirs together of the grace of life. She is not your child. She is not your dog. She is not your live-in maid.
Eve was taken from Adam’s side, close to his heart. Not from his head that she might rule over him and not from his feet that she might be trampled upon, but from his side. Heirs together.
PLEASE DON'T RUSH THROUGH THE ABOVE WORDS! I’ve used them more times than I can remember at wedding ceremonies. But, who needs these words when “we’re in love and that’s all we need to be happy forever and ever?” But, a year later that couple is back, holding an infant in their lap, eyes red from crying, and as a last resort have come to see if the parson can fix them. It’s obvious they didn’t hear a word the parson said when they got married. If that scene had happened one time in sixty years, I could pass over it. It’s not always, but it’s not unusual.
A MAN WHO TREATS HIS CAR OR TRUCK LIKE JUNK WILL SOON BE DRIVING JUNK. He will be paying a mechanic to fix what he refused to think about. God instructs men to live with their wives according to knowledge; like the man had some sense. Study your wife. You will never completely understand her, but you are to give it your best shot. If you will talk with your wife and pay attention to what she is saying (and also what she’s not saying) you might stumble onto something useful. You may be a whiz at business, but women can sometimes see things a man may overlook.
ANOTHER THING YOU CAN COUNT ON is that many women don’t want to have to say what’s bothering them. “It’s obvious to me and it ought to be obvious to him.” Communication! And one more little piece of jewelry: when you’re talking things over, whoever is talking, the other one be still and listen to see what’s being said. You can’t learn anything while you’re interrupting. You’ll get your turn. Listen! And then, speak the truth in love.
These sessions are not military combat to destroy each other. You will get further if you talk to understand and be reconciled than if you try to blow the other one out of the water. If you talk to destroy, you will say some things you will have played back to you for the next ten years. Or maybe you will destroy your relationship with your mouth and you won’t hear anything said back to you for the rest of your life. It’s hard to say the wrong thing when your mouth is shut, and your mind is open. We’re talking about a Christian home.
I like what the writer below says about the husband. Some experts in Greek tend to get lost in the Greek and lose their audience. But these comments are practical. They make it really hard on me, but I’m going to include his words anyway.
“A HUSBAND IS TO TREAT HIS WIFE AS THE WEAKER VESSEL, and he is to give her honor because of that. I do not think the current women's liberation movement is going to last very long. I think a woman wants to be a woman, just as a man wants to be a man. Because she is the weaker vessel, she is to be treated with honor. The man is to give first place to her. She gets into the car first as he holds the door for her. When they enter a room, she goes through the door first. As they walk down the sidewalk, he walks on the outside for her protection. He is to treat her with honor.
“When a woman loses her place, she doesn't go up; she goes down. When she takes her place, she can be treated with honor and given her rightful position. I think every husband ought to treat his wife as someone special.
"THAT YOUR PRAYERS BE NOT HINDERED." Peter says that if you are not getting along as husband and wife, it will ruin your family altar, and there is no use praying together. If you are fighting like cats and dogs, well, God just doesn't hear cats and dogs. But when you are in agreement, you can pray together and your prayers will be on a better footing to be heard.
“Before we leave this particular section of Scripture, I would like to add one further word. Marriage is something which God has given to the entire human family, not only to Christians or to the nation Israel. In the Book of Genesis, we are told that God made man, and at that time man was alone. I think the Lord let Adam be alone for a long time to let him know he was missing something.
“Then Scripture says that God took man and from man He made woman. Using the Hebrew words, Genesis 2:23 reads, "She shall be called Isha, because she was taken out of Ish." She is called "… an help meet for him" (Genesis 2:18, italics mine); that is, a help that was fit for him. In other words, she was to be the other half of him. He was only half a man, and she was to be the other part of him.
With that in mind, you can see that the marriage relationship is not to be one of a man insisting on treating his wife like a little child who has to jump every time he says so. She is there to help him. She is there to be a part of him. She is there to love him. And he is there to love and protect her. That is the ideal relationship in marriage.” (McGee).
Read Through the Bible in a Year
FEBRUARY 14, 2018 – WEDNESDAY
A.M. Leviticus 18-19 P.M. Matthew 27:32-66
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A Good Verse to Memorize:
Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God. (1Corinthians 10:31)
Song for Today:
Draw Me Nearer (2:23)( Male Trio) – (Calv.Mem.Church)
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